The mission of F3 is to invigorate male community leadership. The vehicle for achieving this is small workout groups for men. But what does “male community leadership” actually look like? Let’s break it down into its component parts.
When you think of “leadership” in the workplace, what does it look like?
Some things that immediately come to mind are team members who actively play their part, follow through on commitments and are on-time / punctual. Work ethic and being selfless (there’s no “i” in team) feature highly. Leaders are typically well-presented and look the part. Leaders take the initiative without being asked. Different situations require different styles of leadership so good leaders find the right balance of autocracy and democracy, inclusion and empowerment. They recognize that sometimes it’s better to be led by others.
Who wants to serve a leader who’s disconnected? Effective leaders are passionate, present and engaged. They know the impact – both positive and negative – that their body language, written and spoken words can have. So they praise, motivate and encourage. They’re firm but fair, kind and empathetic. Doing the right things, even when others aren’t watching is something they take pride in. And when the going gets tough, they’re out the front challenging boldy.
So if that’s what some of the characteristics of workplace leadership look like, let’s look at “community”. What is it? It’s people in your area of influence – kids, partner / spouse, extended family, friends, neighbours, others. Cambridge defines it as “the people living in one particular area or people who are considered as a unit because of their common interests, social group, or nationality”.
Do you think there’s any difference in what leadership at work looks like versus male leadership in the family and wider community? No. The same applies, except in a slightly different context.
Us men are part of family units that require us to play our part, to follow through on our commitments and be on-time / punctual. Work ethic and being selfless – living third – is something required on a daily basis. How can our kids take us seriously or be proud of us amongst others if we aren’t well-presented and look the part? No spouse enjoys nagging their partner about needing to take the trash out; men need to take the initiative without being asked. Being the micro-managing hubby or “helicopter parent” who is overly involved requires tempering and finding the right balance or empowerment. And then there’s the “mansplaining” … sometimes you just don’t know better and need to swallow your pride and be led.
Men, how can you expect to earn the affection, respect and trust of your spouse, partner or kids if you aren’t interested, present and engaged? Those around you need your positive affirmation and praise. And your kids seeing your trash talk on the phone to your buddies only sets a negative example for them to follow. Clean it up.
It’s all about authenticity. Not being two different people; one at home and another at work. It simply can’t be a case of striving to be out the front leading others at work, and then when you come home to your spouse, partner and kids to turn off the leadership switch at the front door, sit back and become homogeneous with the furniture.
F3 is about men striving to accelerate and achieve consistent performance – physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Being tougher, fitter and stronger in order to be all-round better leaders for those around us – at work and at home. And then looking to see who, in society or the community, is being left behind (‘the six’), and how we can serve them.
This is male community leadership.